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Blending The Family with Tommy Maloney

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Mar 7, 2018

There needs to be more love and gratitude in the world.

 

 

This Parenting Tip Tuesday has been done before but I wanted to add a thought for the listeners who do not have kids.

 

Plus there is NOTHING wrong with hugging. Even if you are a man.

 

 

Today please show another human love and gratitude. Trust me when I tell you that it will come back to you. Like a Boomerang but without the hurt.

 

 

Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker. Politics

 

Has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. 

 

The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.  

 

A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

Feb 23, 2018

"We feel safe"

 

On this episode I have a sit down with my bonus daughter Becca who is 16 but I love the picture above.

 

I was doing a podcast from the car but well the weather started to get nasty and wanted to be safe. OK I guess the last show where the road was not visible was an issue for my friend Scott.

 

With the events in Florida I wanted to get a Teenagers view. For the record there was laughing but it was because Becca was nervous when I was asking her about gun control. 

We also talk about what parents should do when they are teaching teen's how to drive.

 

Anywho it was nice to have some fun with Becca and listen to a point of view from a teenager.

 

 

Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker.

 

Has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. 

 

The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.  

 

A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

Feb 20, 2018

How are you dealing with personal finances?

 

There are times when you want to say yes to your kids but then reality sets in and you HAVE to say NO.

 

Not having a solid footing when it comes to your finances can stress you out. At the same time what are you doing to help teach your kids about money?

 

Even if you are not a parent what App do you use to keep track of your spending?

 

In the past we have used Mint but currently we find the Dave Ramsey website very useful.

 

What processes have you used to help your kids when it comes to saving money? On this episode I talk about the binder that the kids used.

 

 

Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker.

 

Has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. 

 

The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.  

 

A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

Feb 16, 2018

My insecurity is going to be a theme here but I have credibility but do not call me an expert.

 

After listing to a couple of very popular podcast I felt that you needed to know some of my back story. The reason is that one of the podcast host told “us” the audience of what made him credible.

 

Personally I do not like to talk about my accomplishments but my insecurity was yelling. I do not like to be yelled at. Do you?

 

This episode is going to take you on how we got here and what I mean here is doing podcasting.

 

You will learn some of the incredible things I have done that not many people know because I do not like to talk about myself.

 

Honestly if you go to the Blending The Family website you will see one of my talks or read a blog but maybe I need to explain myself more on this specific episode.

 

Thank you for listening.

 

 

Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker.

 

Has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. 

 

The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.  

 

A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

Feb 13, 2018

When was the last time you wrote a letter to your kids?

 

On this episode I talk about what this tip means to me and how can you create memories of the writen word.

 

My habit was when I was traveling for work, the first stop after the plane landed for me was the gift shop to pick up postcards to send to my son Connor.

 

He was just learning how to read and this was my way of to encourage him to read my poor hand writing.

 

Today I write notes to my family and personally have a couple of journals.

 

Write a note and place it in yours kids lunch bag or their back packs. They will be surprised.

 

 

 

Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker.

 

Has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. 

 

The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. 

 

A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

 

Feb 13, 2018

TAKE ACTION!!

 

We had a busy weekend as well still thinking happy thoughts of one family member who has a broken leg.

 

I recap our weekend but also wanted to talk about being inspired by a new friend of mine.

 

Johnny Nomad has been on the podcast. He has been also doing live video on Instagram during the week as he is driving to his day job.

 

Recently he spoke about taking action. For example if you hate your job then go get a new one, take action.

 

Not in a happy place then take action to find that place.

 

There are ideas that I want to execute no matter if the idea sucks at least I took action.

 

As parents we need to be positive role models. How  as a  parent do you take action?

 

What new action steps are you going to take?

 

Please let me know.

 

Shows that were mentioned on this episode:

 

  • Engel Jones and the 12 minute convos

http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/-67-engel-jones-12-minute-conversation

 

  • Johnny's Corner

http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/-59-johnny-nomad-brings-his-tribe-to-the-podcast

 

 

Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker.

 

Has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. 

 

The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.  

 

A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

Feb 9, 2018

I HAVE A FACE FOR PODCASTING

 

On the show the tables are once again turned. Engel Jones is the host of the podcast "12 Minute Convos" and I was one of his guest.

 

Here is his website:

www.twelveminuteconvos.com

 

Also find him on ITUNES.

 

 

Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker.

 

Has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. 

 

The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.

 

A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

Feb 7, 2018

2018 is becoming a theme for me about co-parenting and taking the high road. I FU$KING HATE taking the high road.

 

 

I keep thinking about how coparenting and needing to be better at taking the high road is becoming a BAD habit

 

 

Please enjoy and if yoo have thoughts on this in your own world please let me know.

 

 

Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker.

 

Has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. 

 

The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.

 

A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

Feb 6, 2018

"LET YOUR KIDS SEE THAT DAD IS NOT PERFECT"

 

Here is this weeks #ParentingTipTuesday via the podcast.

 

Yes it has been a while since I have done this and I am sorry.

 

Please enjoy this tip from the book and let me know how you have failed in your past.

 

 

 

Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker.

 

Has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. 

 

The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.

 

A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

Feb 2, 2018

“What is the most important thing that you hope your readers will get from your book?”

 

 

Welcome to 2011. While looking for something in the home office closet I found a CD. This CD had a recorded interview from 2011 with book publishing coach Flora Brown.

 

Her and I had connected back then on Linked In. My thought is that I do not ever remember sharing this interview other then the only social media that I was on and that was Linked In.

 

The discussion was focused around my first book “25 Tips for Divorced Dads” and towards the end you will hear about our “Ten Tips On How To Survive Your Parents Divorce” that Becca (bonus daughter) and Connor (my son) were working on. 

 

While listening to this interview I was reminded that there was another book in me. That book was to be based on my experience as a stay at home dad. I’d better get working on that.

 

Personally and professionally after listening to the interview I felt that yes I was onto something but somehow got sidetracked. What I mean is that I should of built a successful business by now. It is not to late.

 

I feel that there needs to be more clarification about something early in the interview. My dad is one of the greatest people you will meet. I know at times he is painted as a bad dad but he was not. He wanted to be a single guy not a family guy and I totally respect him for trying to be a husband and father. As I did mention that he is not only a fantastic grandfather but the first time he met Betsy and Becca (my two bonus daughters) they were treated as if he was their grandfather. Dad I love you.


Links on this episode:

 

 

 

 

Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker.

 

Has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. 

 

The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.

 

A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

 

 

Feb 1, 2018

Ladies when you are picking up a baby shower gift, think of the dad’s too.

My wife Ann and I went to Target because Ann needed to buy a gift for a friend who is having a baby. Ann bought a diaper bag as the gift.

 

While walking out of the store I had a “AH HA” moment as I was carrying the new bag. My thought was why is that when buying a baby shower gift the notion is to solely think of the mom?

 

Maybe it is just me but, the gift purchaser should think of the dad too.

 

There was a very cool backpack that was in the diaper bag section and that is what I thought would be a better choice as far as diaper bags.

 

OK is this me being a dude?

 

Links to some of the mentions during this episode:

 

Before you leave, I want to just say thank you for listening to the show. My hope is that you find value with the guest or even my thoughts when I do episodes from my car.

Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker.

 

Has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. 

 

The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.

 

A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

Jan 26, 2018

 

 

 

I HATE THE VIEW FROM TAKING THE HIGH ROAD.

 

This week was an interesting week from the point of view as a dad.

Sunday was where my thought of maybe going to jail was a thought. My former wife and her husband picked up Connor. While I was bringing Connor's hockey bag to their car is where the first story goes.

There have been times when my former wife's husband has made snide remarks to me in the past and I do "take the high road."

This time I really wanted to say something but Connor was right there and he heard the comment.

OK "bonus" parenting 101: if you have a dumb comment to make, DO NOT SAY IT IN FRONT OF THE KIDS!!!

The Brady's VS the Cleavers article for The Good Men Project:

https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/bradys-vs-cleavers-cmtt/

Story number two: Well not sure how to handle this one.

My older bonus daughter Betsy's boyfriend (say that 10 times fast) is a great young man.

When they set the bar for boyfriend's Tristian has set that bar very high. He is very polite and attends Becca's (other bonus daughter) varsity basketball games.

The issue that I am having is that when we attend the games he sits with Betsy's dad and his wife.

I am feeling that maybe I am a bit jealous? 

There is playbook to handle this situation other then what maybe I have learned from life and that is to take the high road. AGAIN!

 

 

Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Stitcher Radio, ITunes and IHeart Radio. Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.  The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. You can connect with Tommy at the website Blending The Family.Com

Jan 20, 2018

How did a girl from Long Beach, California become a shaman from the Amazon and a yogi from the Himalayas?

 

Spring Washam is a meditation and dharma teacher based in Oakland, California. She was trained by Jack Kornfield and now leads Vipassana and Metta retreats throughout the country. Spring is one of the founders of the East Bay Meditation Center in Oakland where she teaches daylong retreats and weekly classes. She is also a member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council. Spring is considered a pioneer in bringing mindfulness based healing practices to inner city communities. In addition she has extensive training in indigenous healing practices and works with students individually from around the world. www.springwasham.com

Her teachings focus on social action and multiculturalism. Her stories and studies, combined with her enthusiasm, charisma, and energy, create a refreshing take on the meditation and mindfulness genre.

 Her new book is titled "A FIERCE HEART

FINDING STRENGTH, COURAGE, AND WISDOM IN ANY MOMENT:

 

“A Fierce Heart is a book whose time is an eternal now: sacred help, made beautifully accessible, by the wild

and determined spirit of a no-nonsense female teacher, a bodhisattva, brown as Earth, real as Oxygen.”


– Alice Walker , author of The Color Purple

 

 

 

 

 

Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Stitcher Radio, ITunes and IHeart Radio. Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.  The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. You can connect with Tommy at the website Blending The Family.Com

Jan 18, 2018

 

I AM THE SHIITY DAD!!

 

This is going to be simply a rant. I am not to happy with myself.

 

Before I forget. Here are some of the points I brought up.

 

  • "Resonate" By Nancy Duarte. This is a great book if you are working on a presentation.

 

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/blendingthefamilys/

 

Instagram and Twitter: blendingfamily

 

 

 

Stay warm Colorado.

 

 

 

Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Stitcher Radio, ITunes and IHeart Radio. Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.  The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. You can connect with Tommy at the website Blending The Family.Com

Jan 12, 2018

 

Johnny Nomad is a dad doing blending a family or in his words "tribes" the right way.

 

I had a sense that his story would serve many families and this episode will not disappoint you.

There was some "adult" language used so you have been warned.

Duke our family dog is getting older and he has this new issue of wanting to go out every few minutes. You will hear him wanting to go out several times. For that I apoligies.

From Johnny's bio:

Johnny was born in Brooklyn, New York. He grew up in a pretty bad neighborhood, His mother wouldn't let him out much she wanted to protect him so he watched a lot of TV.

 

 His father wasn't around much. He left my mother when I was six years old.

 

My mother couldn't afford to pay for the apartment that we had so we had to move to projects which was hell. Wanting a sense of family, he began to watch this little TV show called the Cosby Show, Charles in charge, family matters and Saved by the bell.

 

The shows gave him a sense of community and family, it also taught him how to be the parent that he is today. It gave him a blue print to which would model his current parenting style after.

 

“I have been divorce since 2012 and will be marrying the woman of my dreams this coming March. Super excited, with this marriage we will be blending 9 kids.”

 Podcast - https://johnnyscorner.podbean.com/

 

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoInQc5dUnMDnPlEOBjMrhA?view_as=subscriber

 

Instagram - johnnyscorner_

 

iTunes - https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/johnnys-corner/id1330330176?mt=2

 

 

 

Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Stitcher Radio, ITunes and IHeart Radio. Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.  The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. You can email Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

Jan 11, 2018

 

Can I tell you how much I have a bro crush on Terry Crews? He has now become a virtual mentor of mine.

 

He was recently interviewed on the Tim Ferris podcast and it is one you should listen to. After listening to that episode over and over it inspired me to share some thoughts.

 

Before I forget please follow Mr. Crews on either Twitter or Instagram @terrycrews

 

Thank you for taking the time listening to this episode and hopefully you will come back for more.

 

I would rather not type a lot of show notes but wanting you to simply hear in my voice to inspire you and I to well TAKE THE SHOT!

 

 

Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Stitcher Radio, ITunes and IHeart Radio. Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.  The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. You can email Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

Jan 8, 2018

I might still have some issues. Do you have these issues as well?

 

Driving back after dropping off Connor from the "neutral" spot where his mom was picking him up. I had a little issue that needed to just be said.

 

Then there a few more thoughts. I would actually say that this episode was more of a rant then anything.

 

 

 

Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Stitcher Radio, ITunes and IHeart Radio. Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.  The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. You can email Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

Jan 6, 2018

 

Driving while podcasting was an idea from two of my mentors. Denise and Steven.

Why is there a picture of Elon Musk? Have you ever seen the episode of the "Big Bang Therory" when Musk was washing dishes with Howard? I have a story early on this episode.

This was fun to do and I truly hope that you are not bored while listening.

 

Please! Let me know what you think of this type of format brcause there will be more to come.

 

There will still be other podcast shows with guest so do not worry.

 

Thank you for your support.

 

 

Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Stitcher Radio, ITunes and IHeart Radio. Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.  The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. You can email Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

Dec 22, 2017

Ashley Machele is someone has gone through a rough marriage but was able to find her “why” of severing families.

 

On this episode I had a cold and sorry for my disgusting noises.

 

 

Ashley’s Bio:

After experiencing a high conflict divorce and intense custody battle Ashley has become an advocate for blended families. She is a certified life coach who specializes in helping stepfamilies find joy through their trials. She believes that happiness is found by balancing our mental, physical, and emotional wellbeing.

Her comprehensive programs incorporate all aspects of life as she encourages her clients to find hope in the midst of adversity. She promotes self care and a healthy lifestyle as a personal trainer and offers meal planning for busy families. She has created an uplifting community of support for moms in all stages of life and has provided a platform to serve as a connection between traditional and blended families. 

 

 

“The most important thing for me as I continue to establish Our Splendid Life is to provide the resources and support that I needed as I was going through my divorce and custody battle. I felt so alone during the hardest challenge of my life and being there for others has been an incredible blessing to know that I went through all of that for a reason.” 

 

 Here is how you can find Ashley:

 

  • Guest blog post”bonusfamilies.com/guest-blog-by-ashley-machele/
  • Instagram:@ashleymachele

 

Before we spoke I emailed her a question on my mind about blended families VS traditional families.  I wanted Ashley thoughts as a coach of do we as blended families need to educate traditional families of the world of blended families.

 

Do you find that when meeting new people you have to explain what your blended family is?

 

We also talk about how setting rules with our kids and yes my famous line of “close the door” comes up.

 

What one take away did you get out of this interview?

 

 

 

Tommy Maloney is a voice for dads and blended families by helping them achieve success as a family unit. He is a TEDx speaker, published author and host of the Blending The Family podcast. More importantly Tommy is a dad to Betsy, Becca and Connor. Tommy is happily married to his wife Ann. The author of the books"25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. Email him at: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

Dec 18, 2017

This shall pass but I need to say something first.

 

 

I am so grateful to share my crazy random thoughts while stuck inside.

 

My pain I hope will put a smile on your face.

 

 

Tommy Maloney is a Speaker, Author and Parenting Coach.  The author of the books"25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2017. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. Email him at: Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

Dec 17, 2017

I am recording this off my phone from my bed due to a back issue. 

When you are stuck somplace as a business trip and a flight is delayed and because of that you might miss out on a childs event you feel pretty upset. 

Due to the physical pain I am not able to sit or even stand. Here is where the pity party starts.

Today both Becca and Connor had games today and I had to miss them.

The pain is so bad that there have been moments of crying. Oh and even a lot of that crying drooling to go with the pity party.

 

There is a brightside to this because of being in bed and looking at the fan.

The fan that I get to look at from my back

 

I figured out how to record from my "Droid" phone and get a recording onto my MAC. That could mean more daily or weekly episodes. Yea you!!

 

Yes this pain will go away in due time and I fully understand that there is someone even in more pain then I am. 

 

Tommy Maloney is a voice for dads and blended families by helping them achieve success as a family unit. He is a TEDx speaker, published author and host of the Blending The Family podcast. More importantly Tommy is a dad to Betsy, Becca and Connor. Tommy is happily married to his wife Ann. The author of the books"25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. Email him at: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

Dec 8, 2017

Wine is your friend. Choosing a wine is not going to be a mystery after this episode. Have I failed you yet? Do not answer that.

 

On this episode we are finally going to do the show I have wanted to do for a LONG, LONG time.

 

Many years ago my friend Zach recommend that when my wife Ann and I sit down to work on our weekly budgets to have a bottle of wine.

 

Live in the home office I sit down with a friend of the family Bruce Gammill, who is the closes person to be a wine sommelier that I know. Bruce has worked in wine country at Beaulieu Vineyard. Every time Bruce has suggested a wine (I am a red guy) he has never disappointed.

 

 

We talk about wine suggestions on first dates or if you are cooking for someone new.

 

One of Bruce’s favorite wineries and you really will not go wrong with is Cline. At the liquor store where Bruce spends most of his time, they recently did their weekly wine tasting of several different wines from Cline.

 

This episode was not just about wine but removing lables to describe kids. Bruce has been married and divorced two times. He talks about life lessons on raising kids in a blended family.

 

 

QUESTION!!! What wine do you buy for others??

 

 

Tommy Maloney is a voice for dads and blended families by helping them achieve success as a family unit. He is a TEDx speaker, published author and host of the Blending The Family podcast. More importantly Tommy is a dad to Betsy, Becca and Connor. Tommy is happily married to his wife Ann. The author of the books"25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. Email him at: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

Dec 3, 2017

“LIVE THE LIFE FULLEST AND DIE EMPTY”

 

That was a quote from Max Noble who is my guest on the podcast. Max is the creator of the Linked In video show “Share Your Wisdom”.

 

Max in my view is a person who who want in your circle of close friends. He lives life. Max does not let life live him (if that makes sense to you),

 

This episode was very special to me because I did not know who was interviewing whom before we started. Since Max was also recording for his show I did not know if I was the guest or if Max was. All I know was that I had to sit and listen to what makes Max well, Max.

 

Before I forget here is Max’s Linked In profile.

 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/max-noble-com/

 

When you hear his story of going up the mountain and pretty much risking his life, my hope is that as you are listening to look into the mirror and ask if you are living to your potential. I am guilty as sin wasting my purpose.

 

We also talk about the world of parenting and how his daughter is his yoga teacher.

Oct 24, 2017

Co-Parenting can suck but it IS not about you. Co-Parenting is about your kids and SUPPORTING your kids.

Before we get into this Parenting Tip Tuesday episode here is the link to Mommy's Inside Voice that I mentioned. I feel that Amie's content is fun as well as real as it can get. 

I have been told by a judge in family court that my co-parenting skills need more work (he did say this to my former wife too).

On this episode I talk about:

  • Communication
  • Sit/don't sit
  • Taking the high road

Communication is very vital and it can range from using email to a notebook. 

 

When you attend an event for your kids (bonus kids too) where do you sit? Do you sit with your fomer or far, far away? There are some families who have no issue sitting all together. Is that normal?

 

UGH!! I am trying to do more meditation to help me with learning to be calmer. The mental game of taking the high road is tricky. One day this whole high road thing for me will come together. One day...

 

 

Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Stitcher Radio, ITunes and IHeart Radio. Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.  The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. You can connect with Tommy at the website Blending The Family.Com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Oct 20, 2017

 

On October 8th I did not realize that everyday of that week would be a great day. Here is the run down of each day from that week:

 

  • Sunday had wings with my wife Ann. It was an unscheduled date night because we still did not have a functioning stove. We sat there talking and just enjoying each others companionship. There was some very honest conversation that made at one point a bit awkward but we got through it.
  • Monday as our Colorado weather shifted to snow, I had a job interview. Listen as someone who simply wishes they had a profitable business there are still moments of working a “day job.” Still waiting if I have been hired.
  • Tuesday morning my son Connor texted me to ask about the job interview. He is my “Guardian Angel” because he helped me get the job interview. Stay tuned for that post.
  • Wednesday’s are the days I pick Connor up for his hockey practice. From the time he gets in my car until we leave the rink and I drop him off at his moms’ house it is just magical for me. This is extra time to spend with him.
  • Thursday was a interesting day. Not only was I a guest on a local radio morning show but I was hosting my weekly podcast. When you are on both sides of the microphone in one day it does make for a very fun day.
  • Friday we had a special dinner event. My wife Ann is a member of Kiwanis and her club was holding their yearly installation dinner for their new board members. Connor and I were able to attend this event to help support Ann. Unfortunately we had to miss our daughter Becca’s volleyball game. The team won and we will get to see Becca play again this week to support her.
  • Saturday was hockey day even though Connor did not get the start we all went to his game. Oh and we had wings for dinner after the game.

 

Then there was Sunday and church. I am not used to having a positive week as the one I shared with you. My days are more like Eeyore with the constant cloud over head. However, the message from our Pastor Tim was a message I had heard MANY years ago but it really sunk in on Sunday. Yes I am a bit slow, OK very slow.

 

Not 100 percent sure if it was in a book or an audio program that the message was handed to me from Zig Ziglar. Zig was one of the first motivational speakers that came into my life. To paraphrase what he once stated was all about having daily motivation. We need daily motivation to be in a happy mood. Agreed?

 

Here is how these three pieces of context: My week, Church and Zig Ziglar, all come together.

 

Why don’t I have more wonderful weeks as I pointed out to you? The reason is that you and I need to believe that good things can happen to us.

 

Zig preached that to stay positive we need to feed our minds with good books and positive people everyday. There are trends where if we are having a bad day then we reach for a motivational quote or an uplifting video but that should be a daily routine.

 

James 1:12

12 Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him.

 

 

Pastor Tim spoke to us at church from the book of “James” whom I learned was the half brother of Jesus. Who knew?

 

What I took away from the Bible passage was very similar of what Zig says of being a positive person. What the James passage means to me is that we need to have faith daily not just on Sunday’s.

 

The original post was going to be very different. Very different. Please try not to freak out when I tell you that the post was a note.  This note was written a few weeks ago when my depression was at it’s low of low (understand what type of note?).

 

On the outside my demeanor is being positive but on the inside, Eeyore.

 

 Believe me when you read this that I am very self-aware that everyday is not going to be rainbows and Unicorns who are pooping out Skittles.

 

A friend of mine described his depression as fog rolling in and out, somewhat back to normal. That is how at times my depression is too.

 

My thought process is just to heed the advice of Zig and Tim. We need daily positive, inspirational, even Biblical messages. Listen, not only should YOU do this daily but find positive content that you can share with your kids.

 

Sara Blakely is one of my hero’s and no I do not wear her SPANX product. She was very much influenced by her dad. One dad her dad gave her some Dr. Wayne Dwyer cassettes. This was very key to her life because even during a tragedy in her life when a friend of hers was killed, she was able to get through the emotions with positive messages.  Another piece to her success comes from sitting at the dinner table and being asked “what did you fail at?” Odd question. However, her dad would ask her and her brother because it taught them that failing is good. Failing will teach you life lessons. Failing will get you to success.   

 

We adults need to let go that life is perfect or that we are going to be a looser every single day. Do not get scared of asking for help. Maybe even praying can help. We all want the good life but watching or listening to what is wrong in “The World” is not going to help you. What you should be focused on is what is going on in “YOUR WORLD.” Does that make sense?

 

Here is what I am going to put either back into practice or start doing. My hope is that you will take these three tips to heart for your own inspiration.

 

  1. Upon waking up to meditate. I have an app on my phone called Headspace. There is both a free and paid subscription and currently I still use the free one. You only need 10 minutes to start your day off in a good way.
  2. The gym is where I have epically failed or as the kids might say hashtag epic fail. My new practice is to go to the gym and not just show up but workout. Here is the “thing” and that is I just went through two months of physical therapy for my hips and back. I need to be to do daily stretches and muscle toning. 3 days a week can be done.
  3. Consistently write content. Why is this a positive? I know that my writing is not the best but I am very transparent and want to share my life to hopefully help you or others. Maybe inspire. I know that is a long shot. Anyway, new daily content on a social media platform. Finishing my book would be a another goal that is part of the writing.

 

 

For many of you who too suffer from depression these suggestions have been used to help beat depression without medication. I AM NOT A DOCTOR!

 

Who is with me? Having a great week was just the start of consistently having MORE weeks that are wonderful.

 

We just need to fill our mind, body and spirit with good things. No more Eeyore.   

 

SHOUT OUTS!!!

Marcus Aurelius Anderson's new book  "The Gift of Adversity" comes out this month on October 31 and I wanted to make sure I put that out to you.

WWW.marcus@marcusaureliusanderson.com

 

Do you like quotes? How about books on quotes? A very good friend of mine Jamila Bryant has her first book out "Quote Junkie Diaries" and it is super cool. Each quote in the book are her own thoughts. Please go to her website and buy a ton of books.

www.QuoteJunkieDiaries.com

 

Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Stitcher Radio, ITunes and IHeart Radio. Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.  The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2018. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. You can connect with Tommy at the website Blending The Family.Com

 

 

 

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