www.funnypeoplemeet.com is the brain child of our guest Tonya Dalhaus who is a former comedien.
We also talk about how to "unblend" a family.
Tips on how to work with your future bonus kids.
www.thedatingagent.com another one of Tonya's
Tonya also has several food allergies and she mentions about creating a special bread.
There are one or two naughty words on this episode.
Tommy Maloney is a voice for dads and blended families by helping them achieve success as a family unit. He is a TEDx speaker, published author and host of the Blending The Family podcast. More importantly Tommy is a dad to Betsy, Becca and Connor. Tommy is happily married to his wife Ann. The author of the books"25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2017. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. Email him at: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com
‘How to profit from your divorce’ – Paul Ross After nearly 5 years of my own acrimonious divorce, 6 court appearances, 7 lawyers, threat of bankruptcy and even a penal notice; ending up being totally exasperated and thinking there had to be another and better way to complete a divorce, draw a line and move on with life.
Combining my own divorce experience and latest research; moved me to write my first book ‘How to profit from your divorce’.
The book is written by the client for the client; a step by step 10 point plan, which shares the importance of taking control of your divorce, as a father and devoted parent putting family and children unconditionally first, having a successful divorce strategy and rebuilding your life and wealth after divorce; all designed to help the millions of couples and families affected by family break-up.
The simple 10 point plan includes the important things such as paying for your divorce without going into debt, researching and planning your divorce, selecting your family attorney, negotiating a quality settlement.
Setting realistic divorce objectives and having a divorce strategy at the start of a break-up could be the difference between $15,000 and $100,000 worth of legal fees. Further, a strategy helps you navigate your way to a quality financial settlement and a fulfilling life beyond.
It was William Shakespeare who said: “Legacy is so rich as honesty”
Part of the proceeds from my book will be donated to Alzheimer’s research. For further information, please feel free to visit www.paul-ross.com
Pamela Elaine Nichols is a divorce coach who had her own break through. Pamela has changed her voice to help serve the people she used to bash, dad's.
While attending an event she had many dad come up to her and simply ask for help in a coaching perspective.
This is where not only did she have a "Ah Ha" moment but in the episode we talk about her new coaching life.
Dad's we have a new voice on our side and her name is Pamela.
In 2006 David took the first step in a long and painful journey back from the abyss of addiction and self-destruction. He promised his dying father that he would get clean. And he did. But as he cleaned his body and soul he began to confront the sexual abuse that his addiction had for so long obscured. Abuse perpetrated by a church youth minister that started when David was just 12 years old.
Over three years of abuse destroyed the foundation of love and faith that had been built by his family. For 25 years David kept the abuse secret, and lost himself in a fog of drugs and alcohol. He was by turns destitute, at times incarcerated.
The promise to his dying father was the catalyst. And the bedrock of his mother’s love and devotion was the foundation on which David rebuilt his life. Therapy, 12-step meetings, and soul-deep determination were the bricks and mortar.
Today, David and his wife Linda help fellow survivors through Together We Heal, a non-profit they created that provides cost-free guidance and support.
David travels across the country speaking and teaching at schools, civic groups, churches, children’s advocacy centers or in a house full of families. He helps educate them on how to talk with their kids about sexual abuse and exposes sexual predators’ tactics and methods.
Most recently David joined forces with GRACE (Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment) to be one of their Certification Specialist for its Child Safeguarding Certification Program. It's been David's desire, since he first came forward about being sexually abused, to help the Church from within; to better protect its children and properly respond to those already harmed.
“To the world, you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.” – Dr. Seuss
In case anyone’s wants to read a reader’s digest version of my story, here’s the link. Its titled, “Pedophiles Are Like Serial Killers”
Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW, is a licensed therapist with over 30 years of clinicalexperience specializing ib divorce, children and families, as well as a nonfinction writer and college instructor.
Terry and her daughter Tracy Clifford, wrote thier first book "Daughters of Divorce: Overcome the legacy of your parents' breakup and enjoy a happy, long-lasting relationship.
Terry and I talk about:
You can find out more information about the book and Terry at: MovingPastDivorce.com
This episode were three guest I had spoken to solo. The show is going in a different direction where Tommy is now doing the show solo.
Jason Pockrandt (http://www.jasonpockrandt.com/532-2/) found himself at the age of 17 getting ready to becoming a man to graduate from high school. Jason was told that his father had passed away and Jason's life changed.
Watch the TEDx video of Jason's story:
His latest book "Father-Daughter Conversations" bring many stories of dad's raising girls.
Tommy talks on this episode about taking trips with the family even when they are not in your comfort zone such as going camping. Creating memories is the key component rather then having to make the family trip super perfect. Tommy will also talk about his thoughts on what it means to be "roughing it." This is another episode based on his book "25 Tips for Divorced Dads." This is tip 13 called "Road Trip." Your family vacation can be as simple as setting up a tent in the back yard or just a day trip up the road to a hotel that has a pool. Kids love pools. Enjoy this episode.
Tommy takes one of the tips from his first book "25 Tips for Divorced Dads" and it is tip number 4 where it is about telling our kids everyday that we love them. Tommy also talks to the men that they need to be better role models when they are in public with their kids. Use courage to say to another man that they love them. Women have zero issue telling friends that they care about them or that they love them as well. Tommy just wants dads to set the tone for their kids so not only do the kids hear those words of love but can easily same them to their male friends as they get older.
Tommy recently posted an article on Linked In Pulse titled "5 Skills I learned Driving a Zamboni Machine" where we wrote skills he used behind the scenes of the rink he worked at. It was later suggested that he maybe talk about what skills as a dad he learned too and here they are. To get a hold of Tommy please email him at Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com
Lee Chabin is a Mediator and Divorce Lawyer from New York City. I have known Lee for years through Linked In but wanted to talk to him and his experiences as not only as a dad but also how to have the dreaded conversation with your kids when it is time to tell them about getting divorced. Lee has great content that I have read as well as a no non sense approach that is great for his clients.
Nick Armstrong is the owner of WTF Marketing located in Northern Colorado. He is also responsible for the Fort Collins Ignite events. Nick and I talk about work life balance as well as being a dad. I had a great time speaking with Nick about his business and his lovely family.
Tommy interviews Chris Williams who speaks locally in Denver Colorado to young people about his struggled with his mental health. Chris speaks honestly and from the heart. I hope that Chris's message helps you or others to show that all of our lives are worthy.
Tommy starts off by talking about his expierence in court. This has been a topic that we have all seen glimps of where parents try to be their kids friends but it just seems so wrong.
On this episode we talk about not just how to handle question of faith but how do you handle when you go to church and your ex does not. In our household for example we go to church and want the kids to also have their own beliefs. What we hope you get out of this show is simply supporting your kids.
On this episode we talk about how we have been better at talking about money as well as we will let you know if we made our savings goal for the month. Having the conversation about who handles what part of the financial pieces is going to be vital in the relationship. The bottom line (no pun intended but what the heck maybe it was) is that this is going to be a conversation right up front even during dating. The question that kept coming back in the show was "what is your feelings on money?" The other thing was how were you raised about money.
We interview two people who have taken a heart breaking tragedy and turned it into a calling. Don's youngest son was taken from him and the three years of the court battle. What Don and Nichole have created a website to help create special memories. They are doing a crowdfunding campaign to help get the site fully up and running. Please check out there website TreasureBoxS.com
Today we spoke with Erik Lehman of "Game Changers." A little bit about Erik:
A little over twenty-one years ago, Erik Lehmann spent approximately 50 days living in a
homeless shelter for children in Stony Brook, NY. This experience changed his life
course forever. He learned of a world that needed a voice and not just any voice; it
needed his voice. Erik was taken in by his best friend’s parents during his senior year in
high school, and the following year, they sent him to Cornell University to study Human
Development and Family Studies. This was an absolute miracle!
Today Erik is working on trying to not only get kids off the coach but parents as well to spend at least two extra hours a week with our kids. Erik's passion and mission of Game Changers along with questions can be found at his website www.dream-catalyst.org
This is a special show because we did it as a webinar. This show is based on the book "Love, Limits & Lessons" by Bill Corbett who was on our show to talk about the history of the book. We are certfied instructors to teach this course and we wanted to share the training we did to you. If you head to our website and sign up we will send you the slides and a few other documents just to say thank you.
We interview a very special friend Bill Corbett who is a Author, Speaker and a Trainer on subjects dealing with parenting. One of his early books Love, Limits and Lessons is our topic along with advise on Teens and parenting.
On this episode we talk about having date nights and give some ideas of what to do. Date night is not just about you and your spouse but having one on one time with your bonus kids as well. We talked about why it is vital to have the date nights and to schedule them. We would love to hear what date nights you have done.
We touch on a current event of what is going on with the new laws dealing with freedom of religion. How do you teach tolerance in a blended family?
We talk about not only taking the high road but along with that is the forgivness piece and how they can be tied together. Do you have to actually tell the other person you forgave them or can you tell yourself? When taking the high road do you need to respond to the other one or can silence be taking the high road?
Tommy was on business using Uber and the driver, Fred talked to Tommy about his concerns if he gets into a serious relationship as far as living places. On this episode we talk about the fact that this is aonther serious conversation once you get to the point of the relationship of where are yopu going to live? Who's house or will it be a new house?