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May 22, 2020

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Today's podcast I wanted to talk to you about when the parenting agreement does not mention something like, when your kids can't come over because they are working.

I have not seen Connor since Easter. After Easter "my" weekend fell on Mother's Day. I am not able to see him this weekend because he has a new job.

In this episode, I want to offer three ideas, tips, or just advice on to still be there for your kids when you physically can not.

The organization I mentioned Lap Of Love is what we used for Duke. Here is their website: http://www.lapoflove.com/

Thank you for listening and I hope the podcast has brought you value.

 

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on Apple Podcasts, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

 The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. He has written for magazines: The Good Men Project, Modern Gladiator, and Nurture Magazine. Plus, he has been a guest writer.

 

Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

Podcast music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

Medium: https://medium.com/@thetommymaloney

 

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

May 15, 2020

"STOP AND HAVE FUN"

 

 

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ON WITH THE SHOW.

 

My guest this week is a very good friend of the family. Nate Harrison is the founder of the daycare "Mile High Adventures." Located in the Denver Colorado metro area:

http://www.milehighadvntrs.com/

About Nate:

"I've been working with children since 1995; most often as a child care provider, and in 2011 I decided to go private after feeling that so many programs were focused on something other than families and children. 

I hold an elementary education degree in Colorado with a PE endorsement, won the State Pickleball Gold Medal in 2014 and 2015, am captain/coach of a men's ice hockey team at the Promenade (Four Championships and three 2nd place finishes in 9 seasons leading the team), and was PTA President at Ryan Elementary in Jefferson County from 2010-2012.

I've coached soccer, football, tennis, kayaking/canoeing, and hockey; am a rock climbing instructor for Westminster Rec, been a Girl Scout counselor (residential and day camp), the head instructor and run the snowboard department at SolVista Basin/Granby Ranch in Colorado for six seasons, and have worked in Indiana and Boston with children as a para, substitute teacher, and child care provider.

I have a 15 year old son who plays competitive hockey at Hyland Hills (MVP his second season; Captain in his 4th season), leading scorer for Standley Lake in his sophmore year - proud Dad moment, has won 5 state championships in flag football, (though he doesn't give enough credit to his handsome coach), plays lacrosse, and snowboards, wakesurfs, climbs, bikes, and pretty much plays any of the sports I do.

My guiding philosophy is having children being outside and active as much as possible.  This helps them gain independence, see the playground of nature, and create lasting memories."

 

Nate and his son Gabe are HUGE Denver Bronco fans and I wanted to ask Nate right off the bat (no pun intended) how they are dealing with no sports.

I do have to mention that Nate is an avid Pickleball player and yes, we do mock him about the sport. Then Nate got me on my lack of being very good at Scrabble.

There are some great tips from Nate to help parents out with getting our kids active during these unusual times.

Nate does mention someone on the radio named "Stink," who is former NFL player Mark Schlereth heard on 104.3 The Fan in Denver.

Nate's son Gabe has been doing online schools for a few years and he offers up one key way to help our kids with getting through each school day.

Have an open and honest dialog with your kids was something that really stood out to me that Nate talked about.

We both agreed that our American school system is broken. Our hope is that schools will recognize this and make changes. If you want to contribute to Nate's cause after listen to this episode to start his own school PLEASE do so. His daycare is very cutting edge but also logical and a better way to teach kids.

Even Seth Godin thinks that our school system is in need of repair.

 

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on Apple Podcasts, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

 The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. He has written for magazines: The Good Men Project, Modern Gladiator, and Nurture Magazine. Plus, he has been a guest writer.

 

Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

Podcast music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

Medium: https://medium.com/@thetommymaloney

 

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

May 8, 2020

CO-PARENTING SIMPLIFIED 

 

 

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Welcome to this episode Michael David Daniels who is the founder and CEO of Fayr. He was on the show "Planet of the Apps" and because of that is backed by none other than Gwyneth Paltrow.

The website is Fayr.com and Michael was very kind to offer you a special 20 percent off the App. When you checkout use the code: blending to get the discount.

How did Michael come up with this App? Here is some of his story.

"As a separated father of two young children, Michael found himself overwhelmed by the legal, financial, and emotional costs of divorce on his family. After 20 years in the homebuilding industry, Michael hung up his hard hat to create a tool that would not just improve his family’s life, but would also help the other 55 million divorced co-parents in the US. Despite his success on the Apple tv show "Planet of the Apps" and partnering with Gwyneth Paltrow, Michael's guiding light remains the same: working every day to be his best self for his kids. "   

You will as part of this episode:

  • We do talk about how Michael got on the TV show.
  • He was homeless for a time.
  • Who developed the App.
  • Why the family court system is a joke.
  • Features of the App and why you need this to help with co-parenting.
  • How Michael took the tollway and in a good way cost him $800.00

Another App that could have saved me many sleepless nights when I was first divorced. I hope you do checkout Fayr and if you have a co-parent who is not willing to work with you this App can really help you. My favorite is the time stamping.

If you have an Echo Dot I might set it off so be ready. Not once but twice.

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on Apple Podcasts, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

 The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. He has written for magazines: The Good Men Project, Modern Gladiator, and Nurture Magazine. Plus, he has been a guest writer.

 

Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

Podcast music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

Medium: https://medium.com/@thetommymaloney

 

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

 

 

May 1, 2020

"You must give up the life you planned in order to have the life that is waiting for you"-Joseph Campbell

 

The quote from Joseph Campbell is the quote you will find on the Instagram bio page for my guest Joe Hawley. His story has really fascinated me. Here is a guy who played in the NFL and then retired to live in a van.

Before I keep going, please check out the story from USA Today Writer Tom Schad and his behind the scenes story of Joe.

I do not know where I found Joe Hawley and his sidekick "Freedom." I just love a good story as a storyteller myself. You can find Joe and Freedom on Instagram at Joe.Hawley

Way back in 2018, Joe retires from the NFL to sell off his worldly possessions, adopt Freedom, and get a van so they can travel the US. I told Joe during the interview that even my mom has heard of him and his story. That is scary.

Joe is one of the most positive people I have spoken with and his IG photos and videos are filled with gratitude. 

We talk about where this idea came from. Growing up in Anaheim, California. Why he was so smart with his money and where he learned that skill. His love and my hate for mushrooms. How he got into baseball late in life. 

Please support Joe and Freedom on their quest of living in a world of gratitude.

He just recently announced in his newsletter that he is currently writing a book and is putting a podcast together. I am looking forward to that.

I did have towards the end some technical issues but Joe was a real pro so I am letting you know.

 

Before I let you go I do have three asks:

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  2. If you or someone you know wants coaching please click here and it will take you to the coaching page.
  3. My goal is to get the podcast in the top 100 of Apple podcasts and I can only do this with your help. Please leave a rating and review, share the link to the podcast with your social media followers, and support the guest on the podcast.

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on Apple Podcasts, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

 The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. He has written for magazines: The Good Men Project, Modern Gladiator, and Nurture Magazine. Plus, he has been a guest writer.

 

Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

Podcast music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

Medium: https://medium.com/@thetommymaloney

 

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

 

 

 

Apr 24, 2020

"Father's Eve is about spending time with your buddies, Father's Day is about spending time with family"

Happy days are ahead of us. I really do believe that in my mind. Please can you help me with three items?

  • I have put together the newsletter. Yes, it will be back. Please head to the website and sign up. The May newsletter is all set after putting this podcast episode together. I am going to offer special content through the newsletter.
  • You might not know this but I am a Certified Coach and if you click on the tab "Moving You Forward" tab on the website you will see more details.
  • My goal these days and this is where I need your help, is to be in the top 100 on Apple podcasts. Please leave ratings and reviews but let others know about the podcast.

Thank you and now on with the show notes.

My guest is the Founder of "Father's Eve" John Francis. He will walk you through how this idea came about (in a garage). 

Many of the organizations that John will mention have been on this podcast or have a connection to the podcast:

  1. NYC Dad's Group
  2. Dad 2.0
  3. James Lopez with #fatherhoodislit

During my into I talk about another guest Brett Zachman with BeMen.

John will tell you the 5 rules (don't have any drink in your mouth when you hear rule number one) that Father's eve has and I was shocked to learn that he has been doing this since 2012. What started with guys hanging in a garage to now it has started to get World Wide exposure. 

My personal hope is that we can have Father's Eve 2020 in person but if not then a virtual party will still be fun to be apart of.

You can learn more about John and how you can have your own event on the website: https://fatherseve.com

Let's get the word out and start building a community to help support both dads and men going forward.

 

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on Apple Podcasts, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

 The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. He has written for magazines: The Good Men Project, Modern Gladiator, and Nurture Magazine. Plus, he has been a guest writer.

 

Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

Podcast music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

Medium: https://medium.com/@thetommymaloney

 

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

Apr 17, 2020

Welcome to a virtual breakthrough.

 

Welcome to episode 153 and one where I was very nervous. When you are interviewing a Ph.D. and well you, are some goofball with a mic there is some nerves involved.

Dr. Elizabeth was a great guest and her book really helped me with a breakthrough that you will hear about. Enough about me here is more about our guest.

I’m a professor at Georgetown University who teaches about international security. My passion is understanding the social structures that drive human behavior—especially during stress, trauma, uncertainty, and conflict.

This has led me to teach, speak, and write about a wide range of topics:

  • Why are wars so difficult to end?
  • Why does technology often exacerbate uncertainty?
  • Why do features of the post-9/11 military make suicide and psychological injury more likely?
  • Why do some of our society’s most common coping habits undermine our resilience?

Contact Dr. Liz:

https://elizabeth-stanley.com/

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/e0AMlf-mwY4

On this episode, we talk about:

  • The difference between stress and trauma.
  • How can parents help their kids with the changes in the world we are currently in.
  • What is MMFT?
  • The dentist story but you need to read the book about it b because I was too scared to really talk about it.

I did not realize until it was too late where I did not finish my story during the intro. Sorry.

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on Apple Podcasts, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

 The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. He has written for magazines: The Good Men Project, Modern Gladiator, and Nurture Magazine. Plus, he has been a guest writer.

 

Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

Podcast music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

 

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

Medium: https://medium.com/@thetommymaloney

 

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

 

Apr 10, 2020

Co-parenting just got easier

Another guest who I wish had come up with their idea when I was going through my divorce. Today on the podcast my guest is the Founder of the co-parenting App DComply Marco Munoz. 

Marco and I talk in length why family courts are a joke and for you and you're former to do your best to stay out of them.

Marco and his wife are married but not really. It was a moment on the show where I was speechless.

What was Marco's pain point of coming up with an App and not being a tech person?

Marco even talks about how as a customer he was able to recoup $3,500 from his former.

I am so amazed at the technology and you will sit there and say to yourself "why didn't I think of that?" 

You can find out all about the App and the team behind it at:

https://www.dcomply.com/

 

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on Apple Podcasts, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

 The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. He has written for magazines: The Good Men Project, Modern Gladiator, and Nurture Magazine. Plus, he has been a guest writer.

 

Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

Podcast music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

 

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

Medium: https://medium.com/@thetommymaloney

 

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

 

 

 

 

 

Apr 7, 2020

Three Questions to Help with Your Relationship

 

 

I think I have been enlightened by a previous guest. Taj Dashaun mentioned in episode 149 his three questions. To me, after hearing them I felt that these would be used within our relationships. 

My wife mentioned that a couples therapist could use these questions when working with a brand new couple and they could track to see if the couple has growth after a period of time.

You can even use the questions with your kids to even see how you are doing as a parent.

Please let me know your responses and I would like to share them on an upcoming podcast (don't worry I will change your name).

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on Apple Podcasts, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

 The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. He has written for magazines: The Good Men Project, Modern Gladiator, and Nurture Magazine. Plus, he has been a guest writer.

 

Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

Podcast music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

 

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

Medium: https://medium.com/@thetommymaloney

 

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

 

 

Apr 6, 2020

Warning: Wash Your Ears After Listening To This Episode.

This is episode 150!! I am so shocked and I want to thank Doug Foresta (@dqueensbard on IG). Doug was my podcasting coach and walked me through putting a podcast together and getting it uploaded. So, Doug, THANK YOU!

Thank you for downloading my podcasts. Each and every time I create a new episode I hope it brings you value.

Thanks to all of the guests who have taken their time to come on. My hope is that I am asking thought-provoking questions. This why I have our voice guy mention that this is a "conversation and not an interview." 

I am very excited to share with you this special episode because I was thinking about calling it quits with the not just the podcast but even finishing up my book and try and just find (dare I say it) a new dreaded day job. However, this episode with Johnny really helped me get the energy I needed to keep pressing forward.

I know Johnny was on episode 145 but I just love talking with him and come on, this is episode 150 we needed something goofy to celebrate. 

 

You can find Johnny:

Youtube - http://bit.ly/2HmpZ1A
 
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/johnnynomadpresents/
 
Podcast 
 
Apple Podcast - https://apple.co/2WOu4AZ
 
Google Podcasts - http://bit.ly/2VIS0cs
 
Please contact him to say hello and that you heard his podcast.
 
Please enjoy this episode and here is to even more episodes going forward.
 
 

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on Apple Podcasts, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

 The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. He has written for magazines: The Good Men Project, Modern Gladiator, and Nurture Magazine. Plus, he has been a guest writer.

 

Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

Podcast music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

 

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

Medium: https://medium.com/@thetommymaloney

 

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

 

 

 

Apr 3, 2020

How to Thrive after Sports

 

Are you doing well during this time? I really hope you are and if you need me I am here for you. In this episode, I am happy you came by to listen. My guest is the owner of "Thrive After Sports," Taj Dashaun and it is a needed topic as many of our youth athletes are not able to attend their sports.

 

From Taj's Linkedin Bio:

I help athletes discover their new identity and life's direction after sports. I believe that what drove us in athletics, still drives us now. All it takes is a little guidance and a push in the right direction.

When I first stepped away from the game I love, I struggled heavily with depression. I had never fully developed a clear vision for my life after football. I knew I wanted to get a “good job”, make “a ton of money” and be “successful”, but I felt lost and overwhelmed having no idea what I wanted to do with my life.

After several years of stumbling around in the dark, I began to take my eyes off of myself and focus on serving others. I now run an intensive program for athletes who are struggling to adapt to life after sports. Not only do I help former athletes land jobs and start businesses, I help them find fulfillment in every single area of their lives.

It's become my personal mission to reach out and help others overcome the fear, frustration, and uncertainty associated with life post-athletics. The question to ask oneself after hanging up the jersey isn’t: “who am I now?” The question is: “who do I want to become, and why?” 

On the Social:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tajdashaun/ 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tajdashaun/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachtajdashaun 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdQgi_hDXaP5-6OtX_Nyf4A

Website:  www.tajdashaun.com

We not only speak about how we parents can help our kids with their dreams of being a professional athlete (if they choose) but just navigating through the college process as far as why a certain major might not fit your athletes' sport.

What do you bring to the world? This turns out to be part of a discussion that I really want you to listen to because it can also deal with your relationships.

You might need to have an adult conversation with your student-athlete but you might need to bring some humor along with honesty.   

As promised during this episode, the Jim Rohn quote.

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” 

 

Please be safe out there, live in gratitude and wash your hands.

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on ITUNES, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

 The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. He has written for magazines: The Good Men Project, Modern Gladiator, and Nurture Magazine. Plus, he has been a guest writer.

 

Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

Podcast music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

 

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

Medium: https://medium.com/@thetommymaloney

 

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

 

 

Mar 31, 2020

Even During a Pandemic, We need To Talk About Divorce

This is Parenting Tip Tuesday but I have a guest for this episode. Welcome back Gabrielle Hartley to the program.

Gabrielle reached out to me and asked if she could come on the podcast to talk about helping many couples who are quarantine together who might be facing a possible divorce during these uncertain times. 

Gabrielle talks about making sure that there are safe spaces in the house. No matter how big or small a dwelling is. This is also an opportunity to create a vision board and, I really had not thought that divorce would bring up that project but it was. One other thing was about just slowing down. 

Please, my call to you is that even though you and your former spouse might not like each other. Now it is even more important to be kinder. Yes, for the kids but also for your sanity too.

You can find Gabrielle on the social:

Instagram @gabriellelhartley

Website: gabriellehartley.com

Be safe, be kind and now wash your hands.

 

 

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on ITUNES, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

 The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. He has written for magazines: The Good Men Project, Modern Gladiator, and Nurture Magazine. Plus, he has been a guest writer.

 

Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

Podcast music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

 

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

Medium: https://medium.com/@thetommymaloney

 

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

Mar 30, 2020

Co-parenting in a Coronavirus World

I have seen several blogs and articles written about how to co-parent during this epidemic.

A traditional family might not be able to understand how different the kids of divorce truly have it. Meaning that they might go months without seeing their parents.

Currently, many states are requiring their citizens to stay home. This can impact divorced families.

For example; according to the newspaper "The South African," the citizens are now being told they need to stay home for 21 days. This means that in a divorce situation that who has the kids currently will maintain them until the 21 days have passed.

Here are my thoughts on this audio about what to do currently but also going forward.

1. Both Co-parents need to put their ego's aside. The needs of the kids should always come first.

2. Communication is so key talking to your form spouse. Each day there are different rules depending on your state, city and even your county when it comes to being quarantined.  You must work together and talk about how each other will handle in case there is a mandatory rule of staying home.

3. Technology will be very useful to the kids as far as them being able to stay in contact with the other parent. Please allow the kids to use video chat platforms. Again this is NOT about you.

4. Play in the sand in a nice way. This is a good time to hold off on any silly and petty issues between the two of you. 

 

I hope the audio helps and let me know what you are doing when it comes to co-parenting during these times.

Please share this with other parents as well as leave a rating and review to help me live my dream of doing this podcast full time. Thank you so very much.

 

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on ITUNES, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

 The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. He has written for magazines: The Good Men Project, Modern Gladiator, and Nurture Magazine. Plus, he has been a guest writer.

 

Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

Podcast music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

 

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

Medium: https://medium.com/@thetommymaloney

 

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

 

 

Mar 27, 2020

Keep Moving Forward

Welcome back to the program Amy Lyle. In this episode, not only did we have some extraordinary technical issues, but we recorded this before the world was ending.

We talked about:

  • How to celebrate small wins.
  • To keep moving forward.

When you feel God is talking to you.

I hope that this episode will not only inform you but put a smile on your face.

Here is where you will find Amy on the social:

Contact: www.amylyle.me

FB Page: Amylyle

Twitter: amylyle

Instagram: amylyleauthor

During this episode we mentioned:
Marie Forleo-https://www.marieforleo.com/
Gabrielle Hartley-http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/ep-113-gabrielle-hartley
 

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on ITUNES, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

 The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. He has written for magazines: The Good Men Project, Modern Gladiator, and Nurture Magazine. Plus, he has been a guest writer.

 

Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

Podcast music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

 

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

Medium: https://medium.com/@thetommymaloney

 

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

Mar 24, 2020

Two Podcasters Doing What They Love to do

During this past weekend, Johhny sent me a text asking if we could put something together to talk about what is going on in the world currently but to just have some fun talking.

So, here we are.

We touch on:

  • How this collaboration came together.
  • What projects we are currently working on due to the shutdowns.
  • Johhny offers you some unsolicited advice to help you move forward.

Please, not only subscribe to each of our podcasts but also leave ratings and reviews. We both are trying to build our own media companies and DO NOT want another day job.

 

You can find Johnny:

Youtube - http://bit.ly/2HmpZ1A
 
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/johnnynomadpresents/
 
Podcast 
 
Apple Podcast - https://apple.co/2WOu4AZ
 
Google Podcasts - http://bit.ly/2VIS0cs
 
Please contact him to say hello and that you heard his podcast.

 

 

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on ITUNES, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

 The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. He has written for magazines: The Good Men Project, Modern Gladiator, and Nurture Magazine. Plus, he has been a guest writer.

 

Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

Podcast music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

 

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

Medium: https://medium.com/@thetommymaloney

 

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

Feb 28, 2020

Divorce Diaries Show Creator Michele Traina

 

If you do not ask the question, then the answer will always be no. I happened to be on Instagram when there was a notification that our guest Michele Traina was doing a live video. I jumped on because I've wanted her on the podcast ever since I started to follow her on IG.

 

I dropped a comment in her feed, and well, here we are. 

 

Michele is someone that, if you get on her wrong side, then you won't be sleeping with the fishes, nope, you will be part of her comedy act. Just ask Police Officer Mike.

 

On this episode we talk about:

  • Don't have a meeting with her while you schedule your own meeting with someone else (funny story).
  • Does Michele's daughter think she is funny?
  • Is laughter therapy?

From Michele's bio:

Michele Traina is a performer, educator, and creator of multiple performance brands that carry a thread of healing through humor. She has toured around the country from Stand up to Shakespeare. Michele earned her Masters in Educational Theatre from NYU and has her principal, supervisor, and theatre teacher certifications in the state of New Jersey. In 2013 she founded Propbox Players, a theatre company for young audiences geared towards inclusion and performance for diverse learners. Her one-woman show How to Be A Successful Teacher was in United Solo Festival in 2012 as well as multiple other performances in the tri-state area. She continued her one-woman show 'train' when she was getting divorced by putting her diary on the stage. Michele created Divorce Diaries in 2013, and it has evolved into a one-woman comedy show that laughs at life's beautiful mishaps.

A Jersey Native, Michele's work has a trademark accent and physicality to it, unlike anyone else. She's fiercely energetic and uses her own challenges in life to motivate and inspire her practice as an educator and performer. Michele's obsession with coffee, high kicks, and running literally everywhere. Her favorite role will always be a mom to her beautiful daughter, Grace. 

 

Michele on the social:

Website: https://micheletraina.com/

https://twitter.com/divorcediariess

https://www.facebook.com/michele.traina36

https://www.instagram.com/michele_traina_/

 

Past podcast guest mentioned:

Kathy Hammond

 

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on ITUNES, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

Tommy Maloney is an Author and Life Strategist. The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

Podcast music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

 

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

Medium: https://medium.com/@thetommymaloney

 

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

Feb 21, 2020

Welcome, Kenneth Braswell to the Show!!

Today I am very inspired to have on the show, Kenneth Braswell. He is a wonderful advocate for promoting positive fatherhood. 

Kenneth's bio:

Kenneth Braswell is the founder and Chief Executive Officer of Fathers Incorporated, and works collaboratively with organizations around the country, to identify and advocate for social and legislative changes. This leads to healthy father involvement with children, regardless of the father’s marital or economic status, ethnicity, or geographic location. From employment and incarceration issues, child support and domestic violence, Braswell has worked tirelessly to address long-standing problems; to achieve long-term results for children, their families, the communities, and nation in which they live. Under the leadership of Mr. Braswell, Fathers Incorporated currently serves as the prime contractor for the National Responsible Fatherhood Clearinghouse, providing technical assistance to President Obama’s Fatherhood and Mentoring Initiative.

Kenneth has spent over 29 years in the service of family and community; beginning his career as a radio broadcaster for 15+ years and a community newspaper publisher for 10 years.

Eventually, Braswell became the Director of the New York State Fatherhood Initiative, overseeing more than $11 million in programs, conducting a $1 million comprehensive evaluation, and managing the NYS Noncustodial Earned Income Tax Credit. Throughout his career, he has managed over $50 million in Fatherhood Programming.

With his unique ability to view the world, through the eyes of children, Braswell created Fathers Incorporated in 2004. With national and international missions, the agency has provided capacity building services to thousands of organizations, working to ensure that fathers contribute to the healthy well-being of their children. .

As a much sought after keynote speaker, presenter, trainer and media consultant, Braswell has been featured and mentioned in Tavis Smiley Show, Essence Magazine, The Crisis, CNN, The New York Times, The Washington Times, The Root, The Huffington Post and numerous of other media outlets.

LinkedIn:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/kennethbraswell/

 

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on ITUNES, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

Tommy Maloney is an Author and Life Strategist. The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

Podcast music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

 

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

Medium: https://medium.com/@thetommymaloney

 

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

 

 

Feb 14, 2020

Adrian Dater Part Two

Our guest is Adrian Dater, who I met at a men's mental health workshop in Denver. One of the speakers is a past guest on the Blending The Family Podcast: Clint Malarchuk and his wife, Joanie.

 

As I was walking out to my car, I was walking with Adrian. He is one of my hockey go-to writers even though I am not a Colorado Avalanche fan. I wanted to ask him so many writing questions, but I wanted to wait for a better time.

 

This will be part two-part conversation I had with Adrian. In this episode, we talked about why I am not a fan of the Colorado Avs. Who is Sean Jensen https://broadstreetpublishing.com/authors/sean-jensen/

Did I hear Dater speak as if he too has "Impostor Syndrome"?

 

Adrian's brief bio:

Adrian Dater writes about the NHL for Bookies.com. The longtime NHL writer spent 25 years at  The Denver Post, 20 of which as the beat writer of the Colorado Avalanche. He also covered the Avs for  BSN Denver and was the lead NHL columnist with  Bleacher Report from 2013-16. Dater has written six books, including the best-selling hockey book "Blood Feud: Detroit Red Wings v. Colorado Avalanche, The Inside Story of Pro Sports' Best and Nastiest Rivalry of its Era," and was a regular contributor to  Sports Illustrated from 2011-13. Dater can be heard on 104.3 The Fan. 

Website: coloradohockeynow.com

Twitter: @adater

 

Grew up in New Hampshire, moved to Denver in 1991. Married, son, 15, live in Thornton

 

I do want to write that if you live in the Fort Collins area to please attend Start-Up week from February 24-28. 

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on ITUNES, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

Tommy Maloney is an Author and Life Strategist. The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

Podcast music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

 

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

Medium: https://medium.com/@thetommymaloney

 

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

 

 

 

 

Feb 11, 2020

gofatherhood.com

Our kids grow up to fast. Case in point: my bonus daughter is coming to the end of her high school athletic career.

When I watch my son Connor play his sports, I am either sitting with my wife or in a spot where I am alone. I do not sit with or near my former spouse. My wife has grown where she can sit not only by her former husband but his wife and his parents. There are some ex's who can sit together at events: I am not one of those.

On this Parenting Tip Tuesday episode, I want to let you know that it is okay to do what feels comfortable, not what the so-called "experts" tell you what you have to do.

I needed to find an email and phone number of one of the parents from the hockey team Connor plays for. As I was looking at the names, it hit me that possibly there are divorced and blended families that I was not aware of. Yes, maybe some of the mom's did not change their last name like my wife.

There are times when I do mom and dad at the games, but there are times when you only see one of them.

Many years ago, I was once interviewed on a podcast, and the host asked if "blended families are the new norm?" My answer then and now is still the same: "yes."

Do you sit near your former spouse? I would love to hear your answer. Please email me:

tommy@blendingthefamily.com

 

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on ITUNES, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

Tommy Maloney is an Author and Life Strategist. The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

Podcast music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

 

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

Medium: https://medium.com/@thetommymaloney

 

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

Jan 17, 2020

@adater

Our guest is Adrian Dater, who I met at a men's mental health workshop in Denver. One of the speakers is a past guest on the Blending The Family Podcast: Clint Malarchuk and his wife, Joanie.

As I was walking out to my car, I was walking with Adrian. He is one of my hockey go-to writers even though I am not a Colorado Avalanche fan. I wanted to ask him so many writing questions, but I wanted to wait for a better time.

 

This will be part one of a two-part conversation I had with Adrian. We talk about how he started as a sports writer. Adrian was very open from a time in his past when a night of drinking and social media cost him his job. 

 

Adrian's brief bio:

Adrian Dater writes about the NHL for Bookies.com. The longtime NHL writer spent 25 years at  The Denver Post, 20 of which as the beat writer of the Colorado Avalanche. He also covered the Avs for  BSN Denver and was the lead NHL columnist with  Bleacher Report from 2013-16. Dater has written six books, including the best-selling hockey book "Blood Feud: Detroit Red Wings v. Colorado Avalanche, The Inside Story of Pro Sports' Best and Nastiest Rivalry of its Era," and was a regular contributor to  Sports Illustrated from 2011-13. Can be heard on 104.3 The Fan. 

Website: coloradohockeynow.com

Twitter: @adater

 

Grew up in New Hampshire, moved to Denver in 1991. Married, son, 15, live in Thornton

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on ITUNES, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

Tommy Maloney is an Author and Life Strategist. The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

Podcast music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

 

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

Medium: https://medium.com/@thetommymaloney

 

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

Jan 3, 2020

 

Amy will be back for a new and fresh episode but until then here is what she and I talked about when she was on EP 106. 

Obviously there was a lot of discussion about #failures but we came up with 5 tips to help you move forward and away from failure:

 

  1. Get a mentor
  2. Create a life map
  3. Hearing and saying the word “NO”.
  4. Small Steps
  5. Gratitude

 

We also talk about Amy’s new book “We’re All A Mess, It’s OK. These are real stories of other people’s failures and how they learned from those events.

 

We're All A Mess, It's OK http://ow.ly/h4ck30mABNK

 

Amy ask “I would be forever grateful if you review it on Amazon and or GoodReads!”

 

You can find Amy and her work at the following links:

 

Website https://www.amylyle.me/

Twitter https://twitter.com/amylyle

FB page https://www.facebook.com/amylyle.me/

Instagram https://www.authoramylyle

 

 

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on ITUNES, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

Tommy Maloney is an Author and Life Strategist. The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

Podcast music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

 

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

 

Dec 31, 2019

7 Ways To Think About Your Legacy

Have you thought of what your kids will say after you have passed? What will they say to their children about you even years after you are at your resting place (be it upstairs or downstairs, get my drift) 

 

This was a conversation I had with a young man named "Bryan" who's father had passed away about two years ago. He was telling me how much he missed his dad, who was a mentor to Bryan. The fun times that they had together. The lessons Bryan learned because of the time he spent with his dad.

 

After speaking to Bryan, I really started to think about what my son will say to his friends about me when I pass away. I really want to know what my bonus daughters Betsy and Becca will say about me too. 

 

Do you even think about your legacy? Do you care?

I have a friend named "Lawrence" (not his real name) who has three kids. Lawrence recently broke up with his girlfriend, and for the first time in years, he is single. All he would fixate is not having a girlfriend. Several of us told him to focus on his kids and himself. Do you think deep down his kids care if he has a girlfriend or not? They want to spend time with their dad. Again, after speaking with Lawrence, I'm sad to say that I really do not feel he understood that he needed to make his kids a higher priority. What legacy is he going to end up with?

 

Have you really sat down to think of what your legacy is? Think about it for a moment. What is your relationship like with just not your kid's but your circle of influence?

 

Do you care what others will say about you after you have moved on? I really thought about this after speaking with Bryan. His face would light up as he talked about his dad. I truly wanted to cry.

 

As much as I do tell my wife Ann that I do not think about if a person likes me or not: I do care about how I treated them. Does that make sense?

 

For me, I do not feel that I have been a good enough role model for my family. Currently, I have struggled with my weight, hate my day job, and I feel my depression is getting worse. This is NOT how you create a positive legacy. So, how does someone create a lasting legacy?

 

I want to share with you my seven ideas to create a better legacy. The order is irrelevant: it's about the execution.

  1. When I was in grade school, and our class had a field trip to the Chicago area, my dad would volunteer as a chaperone. How cool is it to not only hang out with your dad but to show him off as only a child can. You have that sense of pride of "this is my dad." I correctly recall a trip to one of the Chicago newspapers and my dad meeting us in front of the building since he lived downtown at the time. It was a memory that is tattooed on my brain. I took that life lesson, and when I became a dad, I would do my best to chaperone as many class trips when my son Connor was in grade school. The moral of this story is: step up and sit on a school bus with a group of screaming kids.
  2. Do you like the movie "Frozen?" You might not, but guess what, your kids might. My friend and one heck of a dad, James Lopez, who runs a business called "Cool4dads.com. " He told me recently that he received free tickets for a Frozen event that his youngest son wanted to attend. Did James say to his son "no" because this was something that dad did not want to do? Heck no! So the point here is to do things that your kids want to do. 
  3. I mentioned that one of my struggles is my weight. We parents really need to think about our health. Our kids will mirror both good and bad habits. All of our kids are either in a sport, or they go to the gym. Or both. In my first book, "25 Tips for Divorced Dads," I mentioned that being physically fit is vital. You want to be on the planet for a long time. For me, in the past, the "Wonder Twins" (this is what we call my son and his bonus sister because they really could be blood-related) and I would go to the gym and shoot hoops. What activity can you do with your kids? Even if it hopscotch
  4. Having open and honest communication. Also, if you are not living in the same house as your kids, you should be talking daily to them. At times it could be a text message to just say "hi" or "I love you." However, you might need to have real conversations. I do not mean the standard "hows your day?" You already know that answer. Have you had "the talk?" What about talking about drugs? My son asked me many years ago if I had ever done drugs? I was candid with him and told him what my experience was back in the college days. One more thing, don't just talk to your kids: listen more than speaking.
  5. There will be times, and I know it can be hard to do, but you will need to admit when you are wrong. This goes beyond acknowledging to your kids. This could be even your former spouse. Part of your legacy is what your character is seen by others. Does that make sense? People's B.S detector will know when you are lying to them. If you do not tell the truth in front of your kids and they know you are not telling the truth: what does that say about your morel fiber? 
  6. It is okay to fail. It is even better if you fail in front of your kids. Let us take this up a notch and say let your kids fail too. When my son Connor and I would go to the local ice rink and work on some hockey drills, I hated to fall. After his games, when we would drive back home, he and I would talk about the positives and negatives: even if the team had won. Failure can be such a great learning tool. Do not let your ego get the best of you. Failing is part of life. Like it or not. 
  7. You might roll your eyes when you read this one, but this is in my mind important for your legacy. Here we go: make your bed every day. Yes! What does this have to do with legacy? If your kids see that you are making your bed consistently, then you are now creating a positive habit. They, too, might (not right away) will build on positive habits. I will admit that neither of the Wonder Twins makes their bed when they are at our house, but in my mind, it is still a visual that one day will make sense to them. After my divorce is when I started to make my bed each day. To the point, I would do it when I was out of work, and it was a day I was not even leaving the house. When I am doing a speaking engagement, I have always worn a tie. When I coached hockey, I wore a tie. Because my son has seen me in a tie after all of these years: guess who wears a tie to his hockey games?

Yes, I can keep going, but you are a smart person, so I know you understand where this is all going. We parents are FAR from being perfect. Try being a bonus parent: even more laborious. 

 

As I said at the start of the piece: do you think of your legacy? After talking with Bryan, it really did hit me of where I can improve as both being a man and a dad. For me, I want to have more meaningful conversations with the Wonder Twins. I want to be better at (if they are open to it), offering life advice. Being honest with my mistakes so they can learn from them.

 

Overall we parents should remember that our kids are watching us and listening to us. Yes, the old saying talking about our actions speak louder then words are truth. 

My plea to you is that going forward, you will think more about your actions because when you are long gone from this world, wouldn't you want your kids to say kind things about you? Especially at your final resting place. Again either up or down.

 

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on ITUNES, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

Tommy Maloney is an Author and Life Strategist. The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

Podcast music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

 

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

 

Dec 27, 2019

Podcast Update

 

 

I just wanted to do offer you a quick update including some music I am really liking that I found at Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

Anyway, there are going to be the guest and more episodes during the week. I want to get consistent with the "parenting tip Tuesday" but also during the week short episodes as well.

That's all for now and I would love to read your emails (tommy@blendingthefamily.com).

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on ITUNES, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

Tommy Maloney is an Author and Life Strategist. The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net

 

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

 

  

Dec 3, 2019

What Are Divorced Men Thinking: A Manly Question While in a Lyft.

 

I took two Lyft rides and had great conversations in both. I am going to talk about the first one here and will save the other with "Bob" for a later episode.

My first ride was with "Sid," and I had a deep feeling with our conversation that he was struggling. Sid mentioned to me that he had been divorced for two years. We first started to talk about just getting through the divorce, and then we talked about staying connected with his kids. Then he asked a doozie of a question.

I was not sure where our conversation was about to go? I was even nervous but me, being an open book I was ready. Or was I?

 

Sid phrased the question in an exciting way and knowing that English is not his first language, the way he phrased it did make sense.  What he said was, "can I ask you a manly question?" In the back of my mind, I was hoping that it was not going to be a sexual question. For example, of having your new "friend" over your place but the kids are there too. Again, that is what landed in my head as far as a manly question.

 

The question was about how to handle when you are around your former and their significant other?

 

FEW! I can definitely handle this one.

 

On this Parenting Tip Tuesday podcast, I will talk about what my answer was and what I have gone through even most recently.

 

I want to also share with you my calendar because I want to help more of you when it comes to divorce, dating after divorce, and creating a blended family. Please use this link to my calendar for a free one on one introduction.

Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr

Enjoy this episode, and now if you will excuse me, my coffee is getting cold.

 

Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on ITUNES, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio. 

 

Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.

 

Tommy Maloney is an Author and Parenting Coach. The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann. 

 

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

 

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

 

 Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

 

 Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

 

 Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

 

 Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

 

 Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

 

 The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Nov 29, 2019

Bringing People Together

Our guest today has been helping running the City Dads Group for the past 11 years.

A little about him and how to find him on the social:

Matt is the co-founder of City Dads Group, a nationwide community of dads navigating fatherhood together. He also hosts the Modern Dads Podcast, a show for dads and moms engaged in the trials and tribulations of parenthood. He lives with his wife and two boys in New York City.
 
Social Media:
Twitter: https://twitter.com/schnei95
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/schnei95/
 
Matt and I had some great conversations during this episode and we talk about how he realized the importance of connecting with the mommy bloggers and you will hear why he made sure to have conversations with them.
 
We also mentioned a dad named James. You can find him on Instagram @fatherhoodislit. James is a wonderful dad and his videos won't disappoint.
 
With the world we currently live in, Matt brought up a point of why we need human interaction and essentially putting our phones down and having face to face conversations.
 
Finally, I know many of our guests and I have mentioned that we men are still lacking in the department of asking for help. Matt and I also bring this topic up.
 
Please have a look at his organization and for me, my biggest take away is to get involved with City Dads Group. Will you?
 
 

Tommy Maloney is a Speaker, Author and Parenting Coach.  The author of the books"25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2020. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.  A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and husband to Ann. 

 

Contact him at

 Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com

TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q

Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/

Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2

Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family

Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney

The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/

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