7 Ways To Think About Your Legacy
Have you thought of what your kids will say after you have passed? What will they say to their children about you even years after you are at your resting place (be it upstairs or downstairs, get my drift)
This was a conversation I had with a young man named "Bryan" who's father had passed away about two years ago. He was telling me how much he missed his dad, who was a mentor to Bryan. The fun times that they had together. The lessons Bryan learned because of the time he spent with his dad.
After speaking to Bryan, I really started to think about what my son will say to his friends about me when I pass away. I really want to know what my bonus daughters Betsy and Becca will say about me too.
Do you even think about your legacy? Do you care?
I have a friend named "Lawrence" (not his real name) who has three kids. Lawrence recently broke up with his girlfriend, and for the first time in years, he is single. All he would fixate is not having a girlfriend. Several of us told him to focus on his kids and himself. Do you think deep down his kids care if he has a girlfriend or not? They want to spend time with their dad. Again, after speaking with Lawrence, I'm sad to say that I really do not feel he understood that he needed to make his kids a higher priority. What legacy is he going to end up with?
Have you really sat down to think of what your legacy is? Think about it for a moment. What is your relationship like with just not your kid's but your circle of influence?
Do you care what others will say about you after you have moved on? I really thought about this after speaking with Bryan. His face would light up as he talked about his dad. I truly wanted to cry.
As much as I do tell my wife Ann that I do not think about if a person likes me or not: I do care about how I treated them. Does that make sense?
For me, I do not feel that I have been a good enough role model for my family. Currently, I have struggled with my weight, hate my day job, and I feel my depression is getting worse. This is NOT how you create a positive legacy. So, how does someone create a lasting legacy?
I want to share with you my seven ideas to create a better legacy. The order is irrelevant: it's about the execution.
- When I was in grade school, and our class had a field trip to the Chicago area, my dad would volunteer as a chaperone. How cool is it to not only hang out with your dad but to show him off as only a child can. You have that sense of pride of "this is my dad." I correctly recall a trip to one of the Chicago newspapers and my dad meeting us in front of the building since he lived downtown at the time. It was a memory that is tattooed on my brain. I took that life lesson, and when I became a dad, I would do my best to chaperone as many class trips when my son Connor was in grade school. The moral of this story is: step up and sit on a school bus with a group of screaming kids.
- Do you like the movie "Frozen?" You might not, but guess what, your kids might. My friend and one heck of a dad, James Lopez, who runs a business called "Cool4dads.com. " He told me recently that he received free tickets for a Frozen event that his youngest son wanted to attend. Did James say to his son "no" because this was something that dad did not want to do? Heck no! So the point here is to do things that your kids want to do.
- I mentioned that one of my struggles is my weight. We parents really need to think about our health. Our kids will mirror both good and bad habits. All of our kids are either in a sport, or they go to the gym. Or both. In my first book, "25 Tips for Divorced Dads," I mentioned that being physically fit is vital. You want to be on the planet for a long time. For me, in the past, the "Wonder Twins" (this is what we call my son and his bonus sister because they really could be blood-related) and I would go to the gym and shoot hoops. What activity can you do with your kids? Even if it hopscotch
- Having open and honest communication. Also, if you are not living in the same house as your kids, you should be talking daily to them. At times it could be a text message to just say "hi" or "I love you." However, you might need to have real conversations. I do not mean the standard "hows your day?" You already know that answer. Have you had "the talk?" What about talking about drugs? My son asked me many years ago if I had ever done drugs? I was candid with him and told him what my experience was back in the college days. One more thing, don't just talk to your kids: listen more than speaking.
- There will be times, and I know it can be hard to do, but you will need to admit when you are wrong. This goes beyond acknowledging to your kids. This could be even your former spouse. Part of your legacy is what your character is seen by others. Does that make sense? People's B.S detector will know when you are lying to them. If you do not tell the truth in front of your kids and they know you are not telling the truth: what does that say about your morel fiber?
- It is okay to fail. It is even better if you fail in front of your kids. Let us take this up a notch and say let your kids fail too. When my son Connor and I would go to the local ice rink and work on some hockey drills, I hated to fall. After his games, when we would drive back home, he and I would talk about the positives and negatives: even if the team had won. Failure can be such a great learning tool. Do not let your ego get the best of you. Failing is part of life. Like it or not.
- You might roll your eyes when you read this one, but this is in my mind important for your legacy. Here we go: make your bed every day. Yes! What does this have to do with legacy? If your kids see that you are making your bed consistently, then you are now creating a positive habit. They, too, might (not right away) will build on positive habits. I will admit that neither of the Wonder Twins makes their bed when they are at our house, but in my mind, it is still a visual that one day will make sense to them. After my divorce is when I started to make my bed each day. To the point, I would do it when I was out of work, and it was a day I was not even leaving the house. When I am doing a speaking engagement, I have always worn a tie. When I coached hockey, I wore a tie. Because my son has seen me in a tie after all of these years: guess who wears a tie to his hockey games?
Yes, I can keep going, but you are a smart person, so I know you understand where this is all going. We parents are FAR from being perfect. Try being a bonus parent: even more laborious.
As I said at the start of the piece: do you think of your legacy? After talking with Bryan, it really did hit me of where I can improve as both being a man and a dad. For me, I want to have more meaningful conversations with the Wonder Twins. I want to be better at (if they are open to it), offering life advice. Being honest with my mistakes so they can learn from them.
Overall we parents should remember that our kids are watching us and listening to us. Yes, the old saying talking about our actions speak louder then words are truth.
My plea to you is that going forward, you will think more about your actions because when you are long gone from this world, wouldn't you want your kids to say kind things about you? Especially at your final resting place. Again either up or down.
Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on ITUNES, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio.
Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.
Tommy Maloney is an Author and Life Strategist. The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann.
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Podcast Update
I just wanted to do offer you a quick update including some music I am really liking that I found at Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net
Anyway, there are going to be the guest and more episodes during the week. I want to get consistent with the "parenting tip Tuesday" but also during the week short episodes as well.
That's all for now and I would love to read your emails (tommy@blendingthefamily.com).
Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on ITUNES, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio.
Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.
Tommy Maloney is an Author and Life Strategist. The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann.
music by Twisterium / freebackgroundtracks.net
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TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q
Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/
Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/
Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2
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What Are Divorced Men Thinking: A Manly Question While in a Lyft.
I took two Lyft rides and had great conversations in both. I am going to talk about the first one here and will save the other with "Bob" for a later episode.
My first ride was with "Sid," and I had a deep feeling with our conversation that he was struggling. Sid mentioned to me that he had been divorced for two years. We first started to talk about just getting through the divorce, and then we talked about staying connected with his kids. Then he asked a doozie of a question.
I was not sure where our conversation was about to go? I was even nervous but me, being an open book I was ready. Or was I?
Sid phrased the question in an exciting way and knowing that English is not his first language, the way he phrased it did make sense. What he said was, "can I ask you a manly question?" In the back of my mind, I was hoping that it was not going to be a sexual question. For example, of having your new "friend" over your place but the kids are there too. Again, that is what landed in my head as far as a manly question.
The question was about how to handle when you are around your former and their significant other?
FEW! I can definitely handle this one.
On this Parenting Tip Tuesday podcast, I will talk about what my answer was and what I have gone through even most recently.
I want to also share with you my calendar because I want to help more of you when it comes to divorce, dating after divorce, and creating a blended family. Please use this link to my calendar for a free one on one introduction.
Calendly: calendly.com/thomasdmaloneyjr
Enjoy this episode, and now if you will excuse me, my coffee is getting cold.
Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family, where you can find on ITUNES, Iheart Radio, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio.
Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins, and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. He even has won speaking awards through Toastmasters International.
Tommy Maloney is an Author and Parenting Coach. The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads." "Why not you, Why Not Me" and His new book, "My Dad's Advice At 5:04 AM" is coming out in 2020. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and Duke. A husband to Ann.
Contact him at
TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q
Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/
Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/
Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2
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Bringing People Together
Our guest today has been helping running the City Dads Group for the past 11 years.
A little about him and how to find him on the social:
Tommy Maloney is a Speaker, Author and Parenting Coach. The author of the books"25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2020. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and husband to Ann.
Contact him at
TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/azG2K47iz4Q
Blog: http://blendingthefamily.com/blog/
Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/
Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/tommy-maloney/id958223196?mt=2
Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tommy-maloney/blending-the-family
Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetommymaloney
The Good Men Project: https://goodmenproject.com/author/tommy-maloney/
LET'S DO THAT PODCAST
Welcome to this weeks Blending The Family podcast. Are you doing good?
I am super pumped to share with you this episode. My guest is Lauren Raymond and she reached out to me on Linkedin. She asked me if I would answer questions that dealt with marriage and parenting. I said to Lauren why don't we record this and make it a podcast. She agreed.
Her questions that she asked me were the first time I heard them. I was 100 percent honest and the questions really started to make me think as both a parent and a husband. I hope they make you think as well.
Who is Lauren?
Lauren Aleza Raymond is an elementary educator and founder of Daily Joy LLC where she privately coaches parents to build JOYFUL homes where everyone feels loved, heard, and nurtured so that their house can truly be a sanctuary of peace. Her program is based on creating joy in 3 areas: self, relationships, and parenting. Together this creates joyful homes.
She resides in the Colorado mountains with her husband, two children, and a dog. She loves being active outside with her friends and family hiking, biking, skiing, paddle boarding, gardening, camping and loves to read a good book.
Connect with Lauren
Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/laurensdailyjoy/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurensdailyjoy/
I hope this episode will spark conversations with your kids and your significant other.
Please subscribe to the podcast and leave a rating and review.
PLEASE!.
Tommy Maloney is a Speaker, Author and Parenting Coach. The author of the books"25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2020. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and husband to Ann. Contact him at Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com
I had to ask the question.
My son Connor and I were headed to his hockey game when I asked him a question that has been on my mind for a long time.
You too should ask the question.
Do you know what your kids think of you as a parent? I asked.
My goal (no pun intended) is to ask our kids and Connor was the first I asked. I simply said, "am I a good dad?" He was a bit thrown off the question and I know he was not ready for a question of this magnitude: but I wanted to ask.
I believe we should ask our kids and not just once but at least once a quarter.
Please let me know if you ask the question and email me, please.
Tommy Maloney is a Speaker, Author and Parenting Coach. The author of the books"25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in 2020. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family. Tommy has spoken at TEDx, Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention. A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, and husband to Ann.
Contact him at Tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com
When you are the bonus (step) parent it is not always ever easy. I feel that I am the invisible parent. That I do not matter.
Do you feel that way too?
On this episode I just needed to ask if you are feeling the same way as I do?
Plus a free give away.
Please subscribe to this and my other podcast where you can find at:
anchor.fm/thetommymaloneypodcast
Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio Apple Podcast and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker and a Mindset Coach.
Tommy has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.
The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in the Fall of 2019. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.
A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com
#PARENTINGTIPTUESDAY
Welcome to what I am intending to become a weekly practice. Here is what I mean by that: more Instagram Live video's.
You are going to hear the audio I did today on the IG account (blendingfamily) and I am going to keep doing them.
On this podcast I am going to give you three steps on how to start moving forward after a divorce/break up but even if you are happily married you could still use some of the ideas here.
Plus if you watch the video on IG you will see my shameless plug.
Please leave a rating and review as well as subscribe to my social media. Thank you.
Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio Apple Podcast and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker and a Mindset Coach.
Tommy has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.
The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in the Fall of 2019. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.
A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com
HOW ARE YOU MY FRIEND?
Im so excited to have one of my dearest friends on the podcast. Denise has been mentioned on this podcast in the past as one of my mentors.
We start off the first part with the text that Denise had sent me:
The second part of this episode the table has once agained turned and Denise (who should have her own podcast) asks me a question.
Plus we talk about:
- Catholic Guilt
- Virtual Friendships
- What Really Matters
Please share this episode with others who you feel that struggle of being alone. People who need to know that they are your close or true friend.
Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio Apple Podcast and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker and a Mindset Coach.
Tommy has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.
The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in the Fall of 2019. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.
A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com
HOW ARE YOU MY FRIEND?
Im so excited to have one of my dearest friends on the podcast. Denise has been mentioned on this podcast in the past as one of my mentors.
She is here to talk about our friendship because she sent me a text two months ago and I was very confused of why she sent it.
In these mature years I have not had many friends and not sure if it is because of being more and more of an introvert?
Denise is my hero because she built a business from the ground up and I struggle with trying something like that.
We start off with the text:
Please share this episode with others who you feel that struggle of being alone. People who need to know that they are your close or true friend.
Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio Apple Podcast and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker and a Mindset Coach.
Tommy has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.
The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in the Fall of 2019. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.
A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com
Hi!!
On this episode we have Rock, well not THE Rock but Rock Thomas. You can find him at:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rockthomas/
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rock-thomas-8bb146b
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RockThomasOfficial/
I did get a sort of request of a business wanting to do a partnership with the podcast. They would not give me a discount code for YOU to buy their stuff. But I still mention them on the podcast. Why? To see if we can get you the listener to still buy something to prove them wrong about not sending US a discount code.
This past week was a awesome time. I had pretty much a whole week with my son Connor. This was a rare opportunity and I had to tell you on the podcast.
Rock Thomas is a very cool guy and was so blessed that he would come onto the podcast. Before you listen check out his Goal Cast video. This is where I learned about him. I cried watching this video.
We get into some great topics on this episode and I am proud of this one.
- ASK
- Rock’s Top Accomplishment
- Visualization
- 4 Step Process To Build Self Confidence
- Triple E
Rock has launched a podcast and has some very powerful messages to share with you.
Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio Apple Podcast and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker and a Mindset Coach.
Tommy has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.
The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in the Fall of 2019. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.
A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com
First a big hello to the people I keep meeting in the Vancouver airport.
On this episode I want to talk to you about a stat I heard at church this past weekend. 4 out of 10 dad's do not feel that hey are good dad's.
That is very sad.
How can we help each other to get this number to where more men feel as though they are GREAT dad's?
I really feel that I am not a good dad but what my son Connor wrote in the card he gave me for Father's Day opened my eyes up.
Call your dad or another dad to let them know that they are a GREAT dad.
P.s New blog post are up!
Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker and a Mindset Coach.
Tommy has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.
The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in the Fall of 2019. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.
A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com
Instagram/Twitter: @blendingfamily
Did you have a good day today? What was so fun that you spent time doing?
This is part two with Johnny Nomad. He and I get into talking about some of our "why" as far as why we do what we do. Such as putting out podcast or writing when we are not making money off of these (YET).
Johnny Nomad let me invade his podcast where we talked for over two hours (hence the two episodes). I love Johnny to death because he is a great conversationalist, he speaks from the heart.
I am going to let you know that you will get some great life tips out of these episodes so you will want to spread the word and subscribe to Johnnys podcast. Trust me!
You can find Johnny:
I mentioned on this episode that I am currently producing three podcast (including this one. Please as a huge favor to me: please listen and share the links. My goal is to make these shows my full time job and I can not do this without you.
https://anchor.fm/2stupidfreakingguys
https://anchor.fm/thetommymaloneypodcast
Please subscribe to these podcast and let me know if there are topics you want me to cover on any of these shows.
Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker and a Mindset Coach.
Instagram/Twitter: @blendingfamily
Tommy has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.
The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in the Fall of 2019. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.
A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com
How are you doing? I hope you are doing well.
This is going to be a two parter because there was so much great conversation going on with our host, that's what I just typed. Friends I was a guest on one of my faforite podcast and someone who was one of my first guest way back in the day.
Johnny Nomad let me invade his podcast where we talked for over two hours (hence the two episodes). I love Johnny to death because he is a great conversationalist because he speaks from the heart.
We talked about building our podcast and even when guest can be rejected to be on our podcast.
Why we won't quit.
I am going to let you know that you will get some great life tips out of these episodes so you will want to spread the word and subscribe to Johnnys podcast. Trust me!
You can find Johnny:
Welcome to the second episode of this new strange and well juvenile podcast. We are calling it still “2 Stupid Freaking Guys”.
You have a better idea??
We talk right off the bat about the divorce John is currently going through. One word on that “HALF”!
He has had a good attitude about this situation and that leads into a talk about ADD/ADHD. According to John’s diagnosis I have ADD.
Then we also have to talk about our old radio stories. Because of a trip back to Chicago I was anointed a nick name that, well I still HATE.
I am in the process of putting this new podcast onto its own platform so please checkout my Instagram and Twitter feed to learn more.
Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker and a Mindset Coach.
Tommy has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.
The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in the Fall of 2019. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.
A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com
Instagram/Twitter: @blendingfamily
Well at least I got a T-shirt out of this.
Please try and keep up with me and my lost though process for this episode.
I feel that I should of not jumped in the water on Sunday.
Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker and a Mindset Coach.
Tommy has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.
The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in the Fall of 2019. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.
A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com
Instagram/Twitter: @blendingfamily
The above picture is back in my radio days. During the Chritmas season John (left), DB (holding the guitar) and myself would lip-synch Elvis songs at events as well as people's houses to raise money for a local women's shelter.
Working in radio I met some great people and have some wonderful memories.
This episode is the first as John and I talk about our radio days but he and I have other things in common to share with you.
For example we are both dads :He and I have gone through divorce (currently John is going through his second), and are both from the burbs of Chicago.
We do talk about how we met 20 plus years ago in Tennessee
Anyway, I hope you enjoy our stories and our honest talk about life.
Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker and a Mindset Coach.
Tommy has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.
The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in the Fall of 2019. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.
A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com
Instagram/Twitter: @blendingfamily
When I meditate this is the vision I keep inside my head so my monkey mind stays focused. This is also the image I used all this week before going under anesthesia.
This week I had already planned to be off because my wife and I were to see Jeff Dunham. He was so funny. I know that his niche is the puppets but he is a great story teller.
What was to be a week off of really nothing turned into taking care of a few medical issues.
On this episode I will walk you through the week including why both men and women need to get away from their fear of getting a colonoscopy.
Yes it can be a bit humiliating but it is a necessary evil. Not only did I do the colonoscopy but I also had (same day) an endoscopy. That means a scope down the esophagus.
No they did not use just one scope, well that is what the doctor told me. I will let that all sink into your mind.
Then the other procedure was to have the oil that is in my right eye taken out. Back in November I had to have eye surgery to fix a detached retina. After five months it was time to take out the oil.
In my view I am a physical mess: I am over weight.
With the colonoscopy I feel like it is a bit of a clean slate, a flushing of the soul (yes bathroom humor there).
As a dad I want to be around for many years and taking care of one self is part of being a parent.
I hope you enjoy this episode and please subscribe to it as well.
Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker and a Mindset Coach.
Tommy has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.
The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in the Fall of 2019. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.
A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com
Instagram/Twitter: @blendingfamily
I was reading an article from "The Blended Truth". They are a blended family organization founded by Brent and Lucy Howell. They wrote in this piece the difficulties of being in a blended family.
I have been having my own struggles of wanting to quit trying to build a relationship with my oldest bonus daughter.
After reading the Howell's wonderful piece: I could not quit.
Life as a bonus parent is not easy.
My hope is that one day my daughter will see that I love her and would very much enjoy having a realtionship. Until that day, I will keep praying.
Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker and a Mindset Coach.
Tommy has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.
The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in the Fall of 2019. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.
A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com
Instagram/Twitter: @blendingfamily
Let’s get right to it. There are life events as a parent you want to be there for your kids.
- Being born
- First steps
- Helping them ride a bike
There have been a couple of events that I wanted to be part of with my son but I got stiff armed from the former.
The former and her “SO” bought the boy a car. Then this week I was informed that the boy will need a suit because he is going to PROM!
I was told by the former that I needed to have the boy home by 1 this weekend so she could get him a suit. I told her that he and I will do it.
On this episode you will hear my thoughts about a missed opportunity or am I just taking this to far?
Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker and a Mindset Coach.
Tommy has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.
The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in the Fall of 2019. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.
A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com
Instagram/Twitter: @blendingfamily
Still missing this guy.
I was watching HBO's Real Sports with Bryant Gumbel. On this episode there was an interview with David Feherty who is a former pro golfer but today has his own talk show as well as a golf commentator. A very funny man Feherty is but this episode was not about being funny.
Recently Feherty lost his son. As a dad I felt so much pain and emotions while watching this that I just had the water works.
Watching and hearing about this loss of life I just sat in bed crying and could not stop.
I call my depression "fog" but was it depression or was it just emotions from a couple of weekends ago?
On the last episode of the Blending The Family podcast I talked about spending time with my son Connor as well as the passing of our family dog Duke (pictured).
My thought is that I still had emotions inside of me that needed to come out and the story of Feherty and his family did just that, brought it out of me.
I mentioned on this episode three books that I want you to please read.
3. Rick Warren
Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker and a Mindset Coach.
Tommy has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.
The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in the Fall of 2019. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.
A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com
On March 24th Duke was finally at peace. I am going to tell you that there is a better way of saying good bye to our pets.
My mom recommended to look into doing hospice for Duke. I had never thought of this or heard of this concept for pets.
On this episode you will hear about not just the passing of our Duke but this is how I want to die: surrounded by my family.
On Saturday Connor and I watched the Chicago Blackhawks loose to the Colorado Avs. Here is where the story gets more intense. Why do we men need to be such ass holes in public? I watched two grown men flip off the ref and the "Hawks" goalie Corey Crawford: for what reason? Men we need to stop thinking that this type of behavior is a good thing. It is not.
Yes I made a bit of a scene at the game too.
Here is a picture from my hotel room and a "hack" I am using since I like my rook dark as I am sleeping.
I did mention that I have been doing a lot of crying as of late. Here is the link to Elizabeth Gilbert's Ted Talk:
https://www.ted.com/search?q=Elizebeth+Gilbert
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RIP Duke.
Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker and a Mindset Coach.
Tommy has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.
The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in the Fall of 2019. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.
A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com
Welcome to a fresh new episode. I am coming to you from Castlegard BC these next two weeks.
What a beautiful site from the plane.
I hate pretzels. Please airlines figure out better snacks.
On this episode: should your former tell you that they are going to buy a car for your teenager? This is what my former did without letting me on the conversation.
Am I over thinking here? I am not just a sperm donor. Please email me your thoughts:tommy@blendingthefamily.com
Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker and a Mindset Coach.
Tommy has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.
The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in the Fall of 2019. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.
A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com
Gabrielle Hartley is an attorney, mediator, consultant, speaker and author. She is known for a unique, non-toxic approach to divorce that she developed over two decades in practice. Gabrielle keeps 99% of her cases out of the courtroom and at the negotiating table as she effectively supports her clients to create a healthy, uplifted post-divorce life for them. Gabrielle served as court attorney for Judge Jeffrey Sunshine in NYC matrimonial court and is a member of the Massachusetts Council on Family Mediation. She currently resides in Northampton, MA with her husband and three sons.
On this episode we talk about:
- How to manifest a graceful divorce
- The Five essential steps
- Why ALL lawyers need this book
- Co-Parenting from other states
- A major theme in the podcast was forgiveness
This is a very unique book and one that if you or someone you know is going through a separation or divorce: this is a needed book.
I really wish I had this book when I went through my first (and last) divorce.
You can find Gabrielle on the social:
Instagram @gabriellelhartley
Website: gabriellehartley.com
Mentioned in the intro was episode 110:
http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/ep-110-tommy-visits-the-podcast-couples-corner
Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker and a Mindset Coach.
Tommy has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.
The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in the Fall of 2019. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.
A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com
We parents do our best to stay in touch with our kids. Sometimes the kids might be to busy or they just forget to call/text you back.
Even if they are not getting back to you:keep trying.
There are some situations where you and your kids might not be getting along. Do not let anger get in the way.
You helped bring them into this world so LOVE them.
Tommy Maloney is the Executive producer and host of the podcast Blending The Family where you can find on Libsyn, Stitcher Radio, ITunes, IHeart Radio and Spotify. Tommy is a TEDx speaker and a Mindset Coach.
Tommy has also spoken at Ignite Fort Collins and Keynote Speaker at Everything Dad Convention.
The author of the books "25 Tips For Divorced Dads.” “Why not you, Why Not Me” and His new book “My Dad’s Advice At 5:04 AM” is coming out in the Fall of 2019. Tommy enjoys a good red blend while writing or hiding from the family.
A dad to Betsy, Becca, Connor, Duke and husband to Ann. To contact Tommy: tommy@BlendingTheFamily.com